Everything About Alternative Lifestyle - Swingers - Swinging

Same Room Fun

Sexual activity with somebody who is not your permanent partner. What ever happen it happens in a present of your permanent partner or spouse.

Most couple's first swinging experience is usually some type of soft swing, example same room fun, but hard swinging can be same room fun too. Kissing, touching erotic games but not intercourse with the other couple, or people is soft swing. Most of the people thinks "swinging" means "swapping", but there are many different types of swinging. Same Room fun is a common example, happens what ever is happens, it will happen in same room with your partner. You may have opportunity to watch your partner in sexual activity with someone else, if you want, you can help to make your partner even happier. Often it's not just in same room, it maybe in the same bed too. it Hard swinging usually means that sexual intercourse and partner exchange is included.

About Swingers Clubs

Basically two kinds of swingers clubs are popular. First the off premises clubs. They are like singles bars. You meet there, build some friendship and go somewhere. Sexy dress for ladies, (or no dress at all) kissing touching allowed, but not intercourse.

On-premises clubs are usually private homes where there are bedrooms available for adult fun. Usually after time, from the off premises clubs the members go to on premises clubs. All kinds of sexual activities may go on and on. Both clubs do welcome new couples or single women, but we not suggesting on premises club for new couples.

Swinging

Swinging used to mean open sex life. Not anymore. Swinging is a lifestyle. Basically two, or more people getting together to explore their sexuality, but swinging not just sex only. Swingers usually are friends too, but the friendship is not necessary. However the end of the line definitely is the bedroom. Swinging is not cheating on your mate. Swingers shares their social and sexual life with others, but not necessarily ending up in intercourse. Swingers sexual activity can be from soft swinging, flirting - until full swap or hard core swinging with multiple sex partners. It is up to everyone how far would like to go, and usually it should be make clear before any action happens. Real swingers couples set up their tight rules, and they keep those rules. They never do anything in a heat of the moment, what they don't want to do.

Who are the swingers?

Swingers are very normal people, just like you and me! Swingers tend to be married, friendly, outgoing people. Swingers generally are interested in sexual adventure. Swingers come from all class of life, in all shapes and forms. Usually they aren't too religious, and very open minded. Your next door neighbors can be swingers but your doctors too. Most of them are well educated and very clean.

How do I convince my partner to swing?

First of all, you must keep in your mind that swinging is not for everyone. Before you can try to convince your partner to swing, at first you need to look at yourself and why you want to swing. If the luck of sex the only reason why you would like to get into the lifestyle, then you shouldn't even bother, hire a prostitute. That's not what this lifestyle is about. When you know why you want to do it you must determine whether your partner could handle swinging, even if he or she became interested. If, you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own, or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others, then you can start looking at how to convince your partner. You may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing, all you have to do is let them know that you are. The first thing you need to do is talk about your fantasies. Be open to any questions that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to do this. Talk and talk, take your time. It takes time to become comfortable with the whole idea, but at one point you have to ask it. What about if we give it a try? If your partner let you know NO way, then back off. Pushing your partner or spouse will get you nowhere. However, you can mention your fantasies to him/her, and talk some more. It may take several months but if you can get your partner fantasies turned on you are in the right direction. Don't forget, swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it can make a good one much stronger.

I would like to swing but don't now how to start

Well you are here, and reading this. It is not a bad start. Try to contact a local Swingers Club speak with them. Probably they will help you, with advice. You may speak with experienced swingers too, without any sexual involvement. If you get more comfortable with the idea of swinging, they may invite you for the next club event and rest of it up to you and your partner. Another way to go, would be the Internet. Millions of Swingers have websites on the net. Try to find one which is covering your area, and post an ad. New couples are always welcome.

What about discretion?

Most established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet. Most of the swingers have a bad memory in good way... As soon as they leave the swingers club, they can't remember who was there, and with who and what they did or didn't do. The new comers biggest question usually is, what will happen if I meet somebody over there, who I know? Well if you meet someone there, either of you don't have any reason to worry about it, because he/she there too. If you go on the Internet, use a free email service, Yahoo, Hotmail etc. or try to pick a website, with a built in message system (like us). You can try a swingers magazine and telephone contact too, basically the choice is yours.

How can we find clubs in our area?

On the Internet, or word of mouth or from local adult store's swingers magazine. A lot of small clubs don't advertise on the net, probably because they popular without any advertising.

We don't have any clubs in our area. Now what?

Swingers are just about everywhere. You don't have to go to a club to find them. Check your local adult book or video store for any local swing publications. If that still doesn't help, go to the next bigger city and try there. Also our website has a feature in the members area, called "Upcoming Party Listings" where members can list their party and or search other's party in your surrounding area.

We found one couple! What next?

Meet them at a neutral setting (i.e. restaurant or lounge). This makes it much easier to leave if things don't go well. Be on time and make sure that you have given each other specific contact information (i.e. What kind of car, dress, etc). Prepare preset signals to communicate between the you and your partner, such as "Yes", "No", "Maybe", and "Let's get the hell out of here!" Generally when you are just starting out you should never arrange for another meeting that night, this gives you and your partner time to discuss your feelings before making a commitment to the other couple.

Now we've met and want more. What is now?

Don't be shy, ask! Make it clear what do you want. Open conversation the best. Talk about your rules. Same room, different rooms, swap, or just soft-swing, etc. Once everyone is in agreement, just go for it. Just remember, "NO" means NO, at any time.

Single Guys and Swinging

I'm a single guy. Swinging is just for couples? Swinging is a lifestyle that couples enjoy to help them live out their fantasies with other adults. Singles can be involved in the lifestyle, and are involved, since many couples are looking for either an extra male or female to help them live out a threesome fantasy. What singles must remember when they are lucky enough to be involved is that it is a privilege and they must treat it as privilege. Many of the problems single men have in trying to get into this lifestyle are brought on by themselves. Most of them treat the ladies as sluts or nymphomaniacs. Swinging is sharing, what the single guy share? Why can not he find a girlfriend? Oh, his girlfriend not into swinging? Then he shouldn't too, or find other girlfriend. Remember, sharing is two sided. But if you are a single and really want to get into the lifestyle, keep trying. Be friendly, clean very polite, see thinks positive and who know maybe one day you may get what you want.

Also a lot of single men think that, that is okay if their banging someone else's wife or girlfriend, but they can't imagine their girlfriend getting erotic workout by one or two horny stud. So is it fair? More about the Swingers lifestyle at next >>>

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