Bi sexual men in the swinging lifestyle

Bi guys and swinging

Lately, many swinging communities have noted more discussion about male bisexuality. With a new generation entering the lifestyle, there is a possibility for a younger generation to have different views of male bisexuality. How does effect us and our lifestyle? Female bisexuality has been an accepted part of the lifestyle, male bisexuality is usually not tolerated in swingers world. For most of us swinging is not to challenge rules, and ropes but to supplement our sexual needs with other couples like ourselves.

If you are a bi sexual male and just thinking about swinging you should know bi sexual men are not always welcome in this lifestyle. Why? For many reasons it is considered a "high risk" activity. Many swingers believe a bisexual man who chooses to enter into a relationship with a woman is seen by the gay community as doing so out of the desire for heterosexual privilege, while one who finds a same-sex partner is viewed by both gay and straight communities as having really been gay all along but afraid to admit it.

What the experts say about this?

Men who are bisexuals are likely to experience homosexual attraction and engage in homosexual experiences before they become aware of their bisexuality. That's why the bi sexual men consider "high risk". Others believe, couples where the male part is bi sexual are not into long relationships with other couples. Usually they are only looking for one night stands, especially if they try to hide the male is bi sexual. For women, on the other hand, the trend is to experience heterosexuality first. Researchers believe, some women who identify themselves as bisexual, have some emotional needs that are best met by men and others that are best met by women.

Some bisexual men offered this explanation too for they own bi sexuality, but much more often the male bisexual explains his sexual lifestyle in terms of a need for variety and creativity.

The best book available in the today's market in this subject is: Together Sex. The author couple believe, female bisexuality is universally accepted and generally encouraged, while male bisexuality is not. And that, of course, is a serious understatement. Time and again, seemingly rational folk will expound on the virtues of sexual freedom, the joys of sexual variety, and the stupidity of society's puritanical mores and, in the next breath, blithely and unequivocally condemn any sexual interaction between males.

In their twenty-some years of research on swinging, they have never seen or heard male bisexuality mentioned except as something that "just isn't done." Yet, in those same years, they have often observed that it is, indeed, done — and not all that rarely, either. Their best guess is that at least 20 percent of male swingers have participated in bisexual, or at least bi-playful, interactions at one time or another. This rate is hardly on a par with female bisexual activities, but it certainly shows that the common perception is a myth.

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We never know what will happen in the future, but that is sure there is much more to be learned about bi sexual men in the swinging lifestyle.

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