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How should we dress for the party?

Dress depends on the party. Ask your host, or if it in the club other club members. Usual dress will be casual, but neat. If it will be a pajama party you should wear pajamas too. If you don't and everyone else does it, you will fill uncomfortable. But you can wear any dress, just relax. Usually ladies show up very sexy they are trying to make the best impression what they can. Men are dressing casual, but in most of the clubs jeans and running shoes are not allowed.

What about sexual disease

There are many scary diseases, so if you want to practice safe sex make it clear before any serious action happens. Never let anyone dictate to you: No protection. It should be you and your partner's choice. The disease should not be the reason not to swing, because it is easily prevented. I strongly recommend condoms for any type of sexual encounter. This lifestyle is only as safe as you want it to be.

Can we damage our marriage if we get into swinging?

Set up rules and keep them. If they are to tight lose them, but always communicate with your partner. Don't do anything what don't want to do, or what make your partner uncomfortable or jealous. If you swing this way, your marriages will improve and your relationship will be stronger and better all the time.

Dealing with jealousy

Jealousy is a normal problem that many swingers face. The best thing you can do to reduce jealousy, let your partner know if you are jealous. Remember open communications. If you aren't comfortable with something that is going on, tell your partner. If you or your partner honestly can not handle a specific action then just don't do them. Every couple has their own limitations, or if don't have time to set up at that point where both, you and your spouse are most comfortable. If your relationship is in trouble and you think swinging will help, you are wrong. It wont! If you have a close, open relationship, built on honesty and love, swinging will only strengthen that and in these cases none of the partners have a reason to be jealous.

Bisexuality and swinging...

Most people have bisexual curiosity, but it appears ladies into swinging are more willing to try it. Many ladies enjoy the touch of another woman in a swinging situation, but are not necessarily attracted to other women in the rest of their lives. It is just up to the chemistry. However bi sexual men are not popular in swinging communities. If you are bi sexual let your new partners know it. Sooner is better. Not everyone is into bi sexuality. Lots of swingers are straight8 (100% straight).

Quality or Quantity?

This question usually come from males. Ask any lady, not necessarily a swinger lady, but you can ask any swinging couple too. They'll will give you the same answer. You should not test here yourself how many times you are able to do it. One quality experience is more better then one night long mediocre experiences. But the fore play is never long enough. You can make this as long as long you wish, it just will make better quality.

What is the most important think about swinging?

This is hard to say. What is very important for me, maybe not that important for you. Be be open, clean and positive all the time. If something bothering you, important to let your partner know. It is means the communications important. But I believe the most important thing, one-way or the other have fun, and be sure your partner have some fun too, because if not (it is special if your partner is your wife) maybe that was your last swinging experience with her.

Interest of some men

Attempting to hire an escort or sex worker to go to a swinging event with you, if you don't have a regular female partner, just so you can get in the door is a terribly poor idea, this is considered inappropriate at every club I have ever heard of, is generally sufficient to get you black-listed, and is a ruse that is highly likely to be noticed by others. A related concept is taking along someone who isn't really your primary partner and isn't really interested in swinging; such folks are called "tickets" (i.e. you just used them as a "ticket" to get in the door), and this practice isn't looked upon favorably either. If you want nothing more than to see your female partner have sex with another woman, you will probably be better off forgetting about it until she brings it up; wandering around by yourself attempting to find a woman who wants to have sex with her, or otherwise trying to push this personal choice into happening, is considered quite crass.

Finally, please remember to converse with both members of a couple you and your partner are interested in, not just the partner you are interested in having sex with, ultimately it's your ability to form friendships with COUPLES which will determine the quality of your experience in the swinging community.

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